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I'm 20 male from Blaine, Minnesota My Best-friend Joe i've known him for at least 14 years been best-friends ever since never thought he'll do this to me. This happened all in two days i'm not sure if I can handle it anymore. There are things i'm thinking about that I never thought about before I never been this depressed before. I lost my girlfriend and good friend of mine in two days plus i'm having a lot of money problems. First let me start on my girlfriend or i'm sorry ex-girlfriend. She called me at work around 1:00 and told me it wasn't working she wanted to break up. I kept asking her why she was breaking up with me she didn't really give me answer. The only thing she kept saying was I feel like your my friend not in reationship wise. I found out talked to her later on again. She told me There's this other guy that lives in Kanas about 900 miles from here. So she's interested in him. I was so hurt because she always told me she would never leave me for anything few days before that she was telling me how much she loves me and all this stuff. So I wasn't expecting this at all we also had plans at 3:00 to go out and do something. Then she had do something with her sister that's what she said at first so I said okay have fun i'll talk to you later she just though that whole breaking up then in there. Then I talked to her again later on that night. She still wants to be my friend all this crap or at least that's what I thought until she came over to my work take me work and try get my mind of it. I do believe she wants to be my friend it wasn't a line. So, I have learn accept it. Latey I have been talking about a lot couldn't help myself i'm trying not to. Anyway, She talked to my best-friend he actually called her and he got the number by me calling him from her house caller ID. He told her he likes her and that i'm loser your the only person I always call first. I only have three friends in my life. Kyla (ex-girlfriend) Joe Best-friend and Dave my other really good friend i've known also for 15 years. Now I only have two friends and i'm scared i'm going to loose her. Dave is always busy since he's married and has two kids. But I just can't believe Joe did this to me it hurts so much my chest is always hurting and can't eat this things keep popping up in my head to hurt myself which I don't want to. I don't wanna tell anyone either. I'm hopping maybe this will help. I'm not sure what to do right now. I have no life all I do is sit home and wait for work. Kyla told me she doesn't wanna spend that much time with me anymore since we are just friends. She doesn't understand where i'm coming from at all she has no clue. never got her heart broken or anything. I want to tell her she broke my heart and she keeps doing everytime she talks about this other guy. I'm not sure who to believe he tells me one thing she's lieing and she said he's lieing. But the people I talk to who know Joe told me this is something they can see Joe doing. They tell me believe her and not him. Well, I know left out a lot of stuff but hopefully someone will help me out. Later, Sean

I talk to who know Joe told me this is something they can see Joe doing. They tell me believe her and not him. Well, I know left out a lot of stuff but hopefully someone will help me out. ________________ OK, I'm gonna have a stab at being supportive and understanding for a change. Sean, You are at an age in life where many of its harsh realities reveal themselves in a grotesquely unpleasent manner.  One such reality is the truth about love, and how it really can rip you to shreds.  The state of bewilderment and emptiness you are currently experiencing is symptomatic of this. If this is the first time you have been in love, such feelings will be alien to you - and a source of much confusion!  Depression is the inevitable result as you struggle to navigate through its uncharted waters. Unfortunately, this is something we all have to get used to, particularly as young people.  Rampant hormones, parental, academic and peer pressures, financial concerns etc.  - all these factors generate an environment where people you think you know can become very fickle, capricious and often insensitive.  The 18-25 age bracket is notorious for this! So what can you do about it? First of all, I would distance yourself from your ex-girlfriend.  She is obviously a great source of emotional anguish to you - if you remain her friend, you may be tempted to involve yourself in her 'new' relationship, maybe as someone she confides in.  Unwittingly, you will do yourself a lot of damage as you unearth facts that will upset you - such as her newly-found 'sex-life'! Additionally, I would cut any ties you have with Joe.  It's one thing to make a play for your girlfriend, but if he is consciously lying about it, he has proven himself as someone you simply cannot trust.  Imbued with such a loathsome quality, he is no longer fit to be your friend, or anyone else's. Do not be too concerned with a shortage of friends.  The life of a young person can be extremely turbulent, often involving moving around regularly to further one's education or job prospects.  As a result of this, friends tend to come and go.  I am confident in your ability to forge new friendships - maybe a night out with David could introduce you to a new crowd. Finally, how to tackle your depression.  The best way to do this is to try and put all these events into perspective - think of how you will feel in, say, a month or so - or even a year!  Will you feel so bad then?! How will you look back upon this incident?! - in many years, you may even laugh about it.  In the context of your entire life, this is no great catastrophe - it just seems like it now! You should remember that love and depression are caused by nothing more than a chemical imbalance in your body - it's a bit like overcoming an addiction. Are you really going to let a bunch of poxy chemicals get the better of you?! Of course not..... Time is truly the great healer - the hurtful feelings that assail you right now will dissipate as the days go past.  You will feel much better, and will be a much stronger, and experienced, person because of it - it will equip you well to handle similar situations in the future! Every Blessing, The Reverend Stephen Mooney

Later, Sean donawanaa ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Don't tell me what I'm doing; I don't want to know!

<snip  Sean, though things might look now, trust me they aren't as bad as they seem. THings do get better. You will find new friends or the ones you do have will have to wake up and see how cruel they are being. ~Gloria AKA Sheena, Queen of the Jungle & WARRIOR Princess Today's brains, tomorrow pierced tongues. Then the next day - pierced brains. http://bounce.to/myworld.gloria http://www.teenbay.com  

Later, Sean Joe is an asshole, no real friend does that to his best mates ex girlfriend. Kyla, isn't worth the bother, you need to spend less time with her, and get over her, the truth of the matter is, she might have said in the past that she would never have left you for anything, and meant it, but feelings change, and so do people. You need to get over her, and move on, and it probably isn't best for you to be friends with your ex girlfriend, at least not yet. I think you need to try and make some more friends, other people you could talk to, could share problems with, have fun with; you're relying on staying friends with three people, and I think it would be better if you tried to meet more people.

<CTRL-X I do believe those nice people from Morcheeba asked the very same question......... Arti